Friday, 5 September 2014

Words that go to the heart and stay….

I have experienced the power of words, in my life and others around me. Words I received as they were spoken over my life and words I have spoken over people. Gordon MacDonald speaks of words that convert. Words that go to the heart and thrive there. He says to thrive meant that the words lingered and were not forgotten. It meant that they lodged in the heart and compelled attention and action. To thrive meant that the words became part of the things he wanted to communicate to people in his world. I have seen the effect of negative words spoken over me and others. Negative words also go to the heart and thrive. These are words that go to our hearts and make us scared and doubt the truth we know. Some of us can testify on dealing with words that affected what we believe or didn’t believe about ourselves. The reason being someone we trusted told us we didn’t matter, that we were dumb and stupid. Someone who told us we could not amount to anything. Their power is as strong as positive words over someone’s life. I know people who are still dealing with the effect of such words in their lives. At times we start telling ourselves the same words that have condemned us. We start believing them and living by them. I am forever challenged to listen more than I speak in that way; words I say are really helpful. By swallowing evil words unsaid, no one has ever harmed his stomach. Winston Churchill However I love the positive power of words, the words that go to one’s heart and built, create, rejuvenate and encourage. Recently my daughter said to me, she is sorry for shouting at me. The words went to my heart and thrived there. I was touched mostly because I didn’t remember her shouting at me (my measurement for shouting and hers are totally different). I was touched because my daughter has learned the power of asking for forgiveness, the humility to come back when you realise you are wrong. Her sorry went to my heart and stayed. I remember my aunt saying about me; “Gape Maina ke kgoshi”- loosely translated that I am a king, I am royalty. I was young but those words went to my heart and stayed. She spoke to a moment when I thought I was being ridiculed and teased for being called royal. They have helped build my identity, that I am royal, I am a princess. They still speak to me today. Today I remind myself to choose my words carefully. The scriptures remind me that death and life are in the power of the tongue (Proverbs 18:21). Paul reminds me not to let unwholesome talk come out of my mouth, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen (Ephesians 4:29). I ask you today; to pause for a while and think of the words you have said today, what action do they compel in the hearts of those that receive them. What conversion do they help create? #notetoself #wordsthatgototheheartandstay #speakingwithwisdom

Friday, 22 August 2014

Appreciating my friends

Since I have made it my practice to make notes of life’s lessons on Fridays; today I want to acknowledge the role of friends and the lessons from the friendships in my life. I have met wonderful friends along the paths of my life. People that have laughed with me, listened to my silly stories, rebuked my childish actions and cheered me on when I needed it. They simply shared their lives with me and have contributed to this lovely woman I have become. My mom and my big sister used to think it was a bad idea to have friends. I was constantly warned to be careful of friends, not to be comfortable too much. I was taught as a young girl that friends are dangerous; they use and leave you lonely and bitter. As a teenager, I was na├»ve to the idea that friendships can be harmful; I had no idea how bad friendship looked like. To me, my friends were my world, they were my company, it was the world where I shared my thoughts and who I was and I loved that they accepted me. What could go wrong with that? Anyway, as I grew I learned that Mommy was right. Not all friendships turned out as great as I wished. I now know the pain of being let go by a friend because they thought I was not so cool anymore, or because I think I am better. Sometimes I had to let go of friend because we were not good influence on each other. Whatever the reason of losing friendships, I now know that just like anything in life, things can go wrong and sometimes friends are not friends anymore. However I am so glad I have more positive things to say about friendship. I have enjoyed different kinds of good friendships in my life. Today I want to appreciate the friends that have now become part of the family. God has grown some of my great friends into sisters and brothers. I now have more sisters and brothers because of the friends that have chosen to stick it up with me. One of the greatest friendships I am grateful of is with my husband. My relationship with him started as a friendship. As an 18 year old student I could not comprehend that in just a few years he would become my closest friend and partner for life. I appreciate the fact that he always inspires me as a friend and as a Christian. The presence of having him as a husband and friend has challenged me to grow and pursue who God has called me for and that I appreciate about friendships. When friends challenge you, cheer you on to become the best you can be, those are the friends to keep. In many ways than one, my greatest friends are those that have constantly moved me to the feet of Jesus. For these I am very grateful. #Appreciatingthegiftoffriendships #Ilovemyfriends #MyFridayNotetoself #IthankGodforyou #AndriesmyBFF

Thursday, 3 July 2014

I am not unaware

The war is for my mind, for my thoughts to change the way I see myself. I know it usually challenges my emotions, the things I know to be true etc. but mostly it is a war for my thoughts. As it has been said before; Watch your thoughts for they become words. Watch your words for they become actions. Watch your actions for they become habits. Watch your habits for they become your character. And watch your character for it becomes your destiny. What we think, we become. Change was not coming because my thoughts became my belief system. My belief system that said I couldn’t change. A system that told me I didn’t deserve any better. A system that said what makes me think I am different, just like the rest I was bound to fail. One that said I know nothing about being a mother, I will mess it up. How could I have missed it? How could I have not realised? This is how the war has always been even in the past! Eve was challenged to think differently about God; That just maybe He doesn’t want her to be like Him. Esau was too hungry to consider or think about the consequences of his actions. Just like many of us he sold his inheritance for a bowl of soup. Saul allowed jealousy to convince him that David wanted to take his throne. He then became obsessed with killing him. David thought if God could help him kill a bear; God will help him defeat the uncircumcised Philistine who defied armies of the living God. The woman with the issue of blood of blood, After suffering for 12 years, thought to herself, If I could but just touch the hem of His garment I shall be made well. The scriptures encourage me further: Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things. Philippians 4:9 I am not unaware for the battle of my mind; the battle is for my thoughts……. And I know I am more than a conqueror. #Renewingmymind #Knowyourstory #Godwithme

Tuesday, 6 May 2014

Sparkles

I see the sparkle in your eyes,
I see the beauty through your eyes,
I notice the fear in your heart
*the fearful and unsure of yourself
I also feel the courage rising in your heart
A dare to think you deserve better
The truth is you do
Because you are a princess
Always remember that!
Never entertain anyone,including myself
To make you believe otherwise
Princesses are royalty and
They are honourable
Behave like one!
#Raisingroyalty
**Becauseyoudeservebetter

Monday, 10 February 2014

Dear Lost Magdee

Dear Lost me, Thank you for teaching me that yes being lost is real and it does happen. I appreciate the pain, the tears, the unnecessary anger misdirected at wrong people. Thank you for helping me grow. It has been through knowing you that I now Know I cannot be found until I admit I am lost. I am grateful that today I know I need God, I need His grace to find me. I accept that I am not as smart as I would like to be. Thank you for keeping me human, for directing me to a place of desperation, on my knees, pleading to my rescuer with every inch of my being. I would forever stand, kneel in awe of this amazing Grace, How He found me, it didn’t matter what shape, state of mind, emotional being. He loved me back to the real me. I have learned that fear is as stubborn as death, it makes whispers so deep, they paralyse within, through the darkest nights of sleepless nights. It whispers hopelessness, failure, impossible, it whispers I’m scared, I am afraid, I cannot do this, I can’t push forward. Dear Lost me, Thank you for teaching me that shame is never an agent of change, that as long as I hold onto God, I will always be found, that there is hope for the real me Yours sincerely, Magdee

Monday, 20 January 2014

Courage, my fuel for the year

Much lies ahead, however the King's beckoning is comforting, it put to acton the heart's desire to act. I can hear my heartbeat resounding with His heartbeat. The only choice is but courage and courageous we shall come forth. I have left no room for fear even though it keeps creeping in. I have found the best way, is to keep myself in His love, to have all my rooms filled with His perfect love so all fear is cast out. Everytime fear tries to creep in, it has no choice but to leave. So we will be courageous, we will rebuild the ancient ruins, repair the broken walls, restore the street dwellings. We will declare the year of the Lord's favour, the acceptable year of the Lord.